Our Inner Critic Can Distort Our Perceptions of Ourselves.
Franco Greco • February 18, 2020
Learn how to relate to uncomfortable thoughts and feelings with more compassion and acceptance
The Dove Experiment
Dove - the household name and manufacturer of beauty goods produced this fantastic video of a forensic police sketch artist who draws women, hidden from view, based on their description. Next, strangers who have briefly met these women describe them to the same artist.
The difference between the self-described sketches and those dictated by casual observers were startling.
The self-described portraits appeared caricature-like and featured sadder looking people with harsher features.
One participant said the portrait she helped create looked “closed off and fatter,” while the portrait that was created by the outside observer looked “more open, friendly and happy.
The Power of Core Negative Beliefs or Schemas
While a number of you have probably seen this video before. A number of you haven't. I am interested in your reaction.
I have shown this video to a number of people. The universal reaction - everyone were really emotionally impacted by it. Why?
It captures a common problem that I regularly see in my practice ... the way that our core negative beliefs or schemas
radically distort our perceptions of ourselves.
How to Manage these Schemas?
While these thoughts may never completely disappear, they don't need to be so distressing and powerful.
By understanding these core negative beliefs
or schemas, and learning how to relate to uncomfortable thoughts and feelings with more compassion and acceptance, you can learn to become your own best friend and ally.
Our schemas
can often be wildly inaccurate, like fun-house mirrors. They’re frequently biased by perfectionism—holding ourselves to unreasonable standards—and incomplete comparisons—relating our self-worth to how we feel others are—resulting in harsh self-judgments that impact our health and happiness.
The solution to this self-shaming? Self-compassion, distancing from harsh thoughts and defusing from them.
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